如何经营爱情？9个技巧让ta更爱你

Quora上一位网友提问：爱情中最棒的技巧有哪些？网友们纷纷根据自己的经历给出了答案。下面9个小技巧或许可以让你的爱情更甜蜜。

1. Keep a secret running list of stuff you partner wants to do or have.
1. 偷偷记下另一半想要的东西和想做的事情。

Then, on a special occasion or when you have the money, take that special weekend trip, buy that nifty thing.
然后在一个特别的时刻或是当你攒够钱以后，带TA来个特别的周末之旅，或是买下那个TA早就想要的小玩意儿。

2. After a fight go for walk and hold hands.
2. 吵架之后牵着手一起散步。

Conversations are easier to have when you’re side-by-side rather than facing one another. Plus, can you really stay mad at someone when their hand is in yours?
肩并肩的谈话要比面对面容易得多。而且当你握着对方的手时你怎么还会生TA的气呢？

3. Use a silly codeword to ease tension during a fight or tough conversation.
3. 在吵架或争执时使用一些两人的暗语来缓解气氛。

Make a deal that if one of you says your secret defusing code word, you’ll both stop arguing, hug, and find a solution. Chiminychonga!
你们可以约定好，其中一人说到缓和气氛的秘密暗语比如Chiminychonga，你们就停止争吵，拥抱并寻找解决方法。

4. Date your longterm partner like you’re still in the honeymoon stage.
4. 跟已是老夫老妻的另一半来一场蜜月般的约会。

Pretend that you’re new to each other that you still have to work hard at being an awesome partner (even though you’ve already landed them).
你们可以假装刚刚认识对方，所以得非常努力地博取对方好感（即便你们早就在一起了）。

5. When you’re together, give them your full attention.
5. 两人在一起的时候，要把全部注意力都放在对方身上。

Like don’t even scroll through your Instagram. Make your person feel heard by really listening.
比如不要不停地刷手机，要让对方感受到你在认真倾听。

6. Give praise.
6. 不吝啬你的夸奖。

Tell you’re partner how proud you are they got something done, took a step, faced a challenge, etc., no matter how small.
当你的另一半成功完成某件事、取得某种进步或面对某项挑战时，要告诉TA你为TA骄傲，无论大小。

thank you constantly even for small stuff.
7. 即使是小事情也要常说谢谢。

Look, even though they’re minor tasks, no one wants to replace the toilet paper roll or hang up your dumb shirts. Just let your partner know you appreciate their contribution to your little world.
虽然是一些不值得一提的琐碎事情，但没人愿意为你换厕纸、挂衣服等等。所以要让你的另一半知道你感谢TA为你所做的付出。

8. If you don’t really care about a thing, don’t argue about it.
8. 如果你真的不在意一件事情，就不要因此争执。

Let little stuff go and only make it a thing if it’s something truly important to you.
不要计较一些小事，除非这件事对你来说真的相当重要。

9. Give empowering gifts.
9. 赠送鼓励性的礼物

If you partner has always wanted to learn tap dancing or go sky diving or travel solo but is too scared to take the leap or spend the money, show them your support and encouragement by gifting them the experiences they want.
如果你的另一半一直想学跳踢踏舞、想去跳伞或独自旅游但又不敢冒险或是怕花钱的话，你就要表示出你的支持和鼓励，帮助TA完成心愿。