双语阅读：做个全新的自己

摘要：新年来临之际是重新塑造自我的良机。如何塑造呢?我认为，关键在于换个角度来理解我们所做的选择。对很多人而言，生命中最重要的一些选择是痛苦、恐惧、无力的根源，甚至会让人产生抑郁和自杀倾向。但事情并不一定非是如此不可。

THE annual ritual of the New Year’s resolution — I’lllose 10 pounds, get my finances in order, be morepatient with my family, feel more grateful — missesthe point. We try to steel our wills to do what wealready know we should be doing. Kick-in-the-pantsreminders, however stern, are missed opportunitiesfor genuine self-renewal. (Not to mention that theshelf life of any motivational juice we generate inJanuary tends to expire in February.)

制定新年规划这个一年一度的常规动作——我要减重10磅，要解决财务问题，要更耐心地对待家人，要更知道感恩——总是放错重点。我们竭力强化意志，去做已经意识到自己该做的那些事情。但好似“催命符”的备忘录不管多严苛，都无法激励人们进行真正的自我更新。(更别提1月份才成形的这些宏图大志是多么容易过期，2月份一到，它们往往就宣告破产。)

The turning over of a new year is an opportunity to create ourselves anew. How? The key, Isuggest, is in shifting our understanding of the choices we make. For many people, the mostimportant choices in life are sources of agony, dread, paralysis — even depression orsuicide. It doesn’t have to be like this.

新年来临之际是重新塑造自我的良机。如何塑造呢?我认为，关键在于换个角度来理解我们所做的选择。对很多人而言，生命中最重要的一些选择是痛苦、恐惧、无力的根源，甚至会让人产生抑郁和自杀倾向。但事情并不一定非是如此不可。

A hypothetical example: Eve works as a textbook editor at a Boston publishing house and wasapproached by a small but prestigious imprint on the West Coast that was looking for afiction editor. The job would be a big promotion, with a significant raise, and Eve had alwayswanted to work in fiction.

比方说，伊芙是波士顿某出版社的教科书编辑，西海岸一家正在寻找小说编辑的出版公司找到了她。该公司规模虽小，但却久负盛名。接受这份工作，伊芙的职位会大大提升，薪水会大幅提高，而且她一直都想在小说领域发展。

But Eve is in crisis. Should she move her husband and young daughter from their cozy life inBoston, her home of 15 years, to the wilds of California? If she stays, will she be forsaking theopportunity of a lifetime? If she moves, will her new boss turn out to be a jerk? Will her childbe bullied at school? What if her husband can’t find a good job? Will the family quarrel, themarriage dissolve, her boss fire her for being incompetent, and she and her child end up onfood stamps in a homeless shelter?

但伊芙却面临着艰难的抉择。她已经在波士顿生活了15年，该让丈夫和年幼的女儿抛开这里的惬意生活，与她一起搬走吗?如果选择留在波士顿，她能够割舍一生中难得的机遇吗?如果选择搬去西海岸，要是发现新老板是个混球可怎么办?要是她的孩子在学校挨欺负可怎么办?要是她丈夫找不到好工作可怎么办?家里是否会争吵不断，婚姻是否会解体，老板是否会因为她无法胜任工作而炒她鱿鱼，她和孩子是否会落得在收容所靠食品券度日的田地?

Many people are like Eve and see their choices as, in essence, problems of computation. Butchoosing between jobs is not like computing the distance between Memphis and Mumbai. Theview of choice as a matter of calculating maximal value is assumed in cost-benefit analysis,government policy making and much of economic theory. It’s even embedded in the apps youcan download that purport to help you decide whether to buy a new car, get married or changejobs.

许多人都和伊芙差不多，他们其实把选择看成了计算利害得失的问题。但在不同工作之间做出选择，跟测量从孟菲斯到孟买的距离可不是一回事。把选择看作对价值最大化的计算，是内化于成本收益分析、政府决策过程以及许多经济理论之中的一种观念。它甚至潜藏在可以从网上下载的某些旨在帮助你决定是否要买新车、是否要结婚、是否要换工作的应用程序之中。

At the heart of this model is a simple assumption: that what you should choose is alwaysdetermined by facts in the world about which option has more value — facts that, if only youwere smart enough to discover, would make decision-making relatively easy.

该模型的核心假设非常简单：你的选择总是取决于世界上的某些与哪个选项会带来更大价值有关的事实——你只要聪明到足以发现这些事实，就能够相对容易地做出决策。

But the assumption is false. When we compute distances, there are only three possibilities:one distance is more than, less than or equal to another. Similarly, when we compute value,there are only three possibilities: one thing is better than, worse than or just as good asanother. But we shouldn’t assume that goodness is like distance. Values don’t have the samestructure as facts.

但这个假设是错误的。我们测算距离的时候，所面对的可能性只有三种：一段距离比另一段长，比另一段短，或者跟另一段相等。同样，我们计算价值的时候，所面对的可能性也只有三种：一个事物比另一个好，比另一个糟，或者跟另一个差不多。但我们不该把事物的好坏和距离的长短等同起来。价值的体系和事实的体系是截然不同的。

Options can be “on a par” — different in value while being in the same overall neighborhood. Ifyour alternatives are on a par, you can’t make a mistake of reason in choosing one instead ofthe other. Since one isn’t better than the other, you can’t choose wrongly. But nor are theyequally good. When alternatives are on a par, when the world doesn’t determine a single rightthing to do, that doesn’t mean that value writ large has been exhausted. Instead of lookingoutward to find the value that determines what you should do, you can look inward to what youcan stand behind, commit to, resolve to throw yourself behind. By committing to an option,you can confer value on it.

各种选项可能会“平分秋色”——虽然价值不完全相同，但也相差无几。如果你有一些平分秋色的选项，你无论选择哪个，都不会犯判断上的错误。因为两种选择没有优劣之分，你不可能做出错误的选择。不过，它们也并非一样好。当选项平分秋色时，当世界上并非只有唯一正确的答案时，那并不意味着真正的价值已经枯竭。与其从外部寻找价值来判断自己应该做些什么，你可以向内心来询问自己能够支持、承诺，以及决心投身于什么。只要笃定于一个选项，你就为它赋予了价值。

Of course, this isn’t to say that you should commit to being a first-class jerk, pedophile ormurderer. That’s because being a jerk is not on a par with being a good person.

当然了，这并不是说你应该笃定于成为一个头号混蛋、恋童癖，或者杀人犯。这是因为，做一个混蛋和做一个好人可不是平分秋色的选项。

When we choose between options that are on a par, we make ourselves the authors of our ownlives. Instead of being led by the nose by what we imagine to be facts of the world, we shouldinstead recognize that sometimes the world is silent about what we should do. In those cases,we can create value for ourselves by committing to an option. By doing so, we not only createvalue for ourselves but we also (re)create ourselves. Eve might resolve to make her life inBoston. Someone else, in her shoes, might resolve to start a new life in California. There is noerror here, only different resolutions that create different sorts of people.

当我们在平分秋色的选项中做选择时，我们就成了自己人生的创造者。我们不应该被我们想象中的世界现实牵着鼻子走，而是应该认识到，有时，这个世界不会告诉我们应该做什么。在这种情况下，我们应该笃定一种选项，创造我们自己的价值。这样做的话，我们不仅为自己创造了的价值，我们也(重新)创造了自己。伊芙可能决心在波士顿生活。而面临同样的境遇，另一个人可能会决定在加州开始新的生活。这无所谓对错，只是不同的解决方案造就不同类型的人罢了。

So Eve, faced with her choice, should reflect on what kind of person she can be. Can she besomeone who abandons a contented life for a new adventure? A choice between alternativesthat are on a par is a precious opportunity to create the sort of person she can commit tobeing, by committing to being that sort of person.

因此，伊芙在做出选择时，应该考虑的是，她能成为什么样的人。她能为了新的冒险而放弃舒适的生活吗?在平分秋色的选项中做决定是一个宝贵的机会，可以创造出一个自己能够决心成为的人，方法就是下决心成为那种类型的人。

Many of the choices we face in the new year will be between alternatives that are on a par. Ourtask then is to reflect on what kind of person we can commit to being when making thosechoices. Can we commit to forgoing a much-needed new car and give the money to charityinstead? Can we commit to staying in a secure 9-to-5 job rather than starting the businesswe’ve always dreamed of? Can we commit to having a parent with Alzheimer’s move in with us,rather than paying to put her in a nursing home?

我们在新年伊始面临的许多选择都是平分秋色的选项。因此，在做出这些决定时，我们的任务就是思考，我们能下决心成为什么样的人。我们能放弃一辆急需的新车，把钱捐给慈善机构吗?我们能满足于朝九晚五的安稳工作，放弃创业的梦想吗?我们愿意把患有阿尔茨海默症的母亲接来与我们同住，而不是花钱把她送到养老院吗?

So in this new year, let’s not do the same old, same old; let’s not resolve to work harder atbeing the selves that we already are. Instead, let’s resolve to make ourselves into the selvesthat we can commit to being.

因此，在这个新年到来之际，我们不要年复一年地做同样的事了;在新年的规划中，不要下决心更努力地做本来的自己。相反，我们要把自己变成想要成为的那个人。

　　要悟透自己 就是正确认识自己

In all one's life time it is oneself that one spends the most time being with or dealing with. But it is precisely oneself that one has the least understanding of.

When you are going upwards in life you tend to overestimate yourself. It seems that everything you seek for is within your reach; luck and opportunities will come your way and you are overjoyed that they constitute part of your worth. When you are going downhill you tend to underestimate yourself, mistaking difficulties and adversities for your own incompetence. It’s likely that you think it wise for yourself to know your place and stay aloof from worldly wearing a mask of cowardice, behind which the flow of sap in your life will be retarded.

人生在世，和“自己”相处最多，打交道最多，但是往往悟不透“自己”.

人生走上坡路时，往往把自己估计过高，似乎一切所求的东西都能垂手可得，甚至把运气和机遇也看做自己身价的一部分而喜不自胜.人在不得意时，又往往把自己估计过低，把困难和不利也看做自己的无能，以至把安分守己，与世无争误认为有自知之明，而实际上往往被怯懦的面具窒息了自己鲜活的生命.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of oneself and be a sober realist -- aware of both one’s strength and shortage. You may look forward hopefully to the future but be sure not to expect too much, for ideals can never be fully realized. You may be courageous to meet challenges but it should be clear to you where to direct your efforts. That’s to way so long as you have a perfect knowledge of yourself there won’t be difficulties you can’t overcome, nor obstacles you can’t surmount.

　悟透自己，就是正确认识自己，也就是说要做一个冷静的现实主义者，既知道自己的优势，也知道自己的不足.我们可以憧憬人生，但期望值不能过高.因为在现实中，理想总是会打折扣的.可以迎接挑战.但是必须清楚自己努力的方向.也就是说，人一旦有了自知之明，也就没有什么克服不了的困难，没有什么过不去的难关.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself needs selfappreciation. Whether you liken yourself to a towering tree or a blade of grass, whether you think you are a high mountain or a small stone, you represent a state of nature that has its own raison deter. If you earnestly admire yourself you’ll have a real sense of self-appreciation, which will give you confidence. As soon as you gain full confidence in yourself you’ll be enabled to fight and overcome any adversity.

　要悟透自己就要欣赏自己.无论你是一棵参天大树，还是一棵小草，无论你成为一座巍峨的高山，还是一块小小的石头，都是一种天然，都有自己存在的价值.只要你认真地欣赏自己，你就会拥有一个真正的自我.只有自我欣赏才会有信心，一旦拥有了信心也就拥有了抵御一切逆境的动力.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself also requires doing oneself a favor when it’s needed. In time of anger, do yourself a favor by giving vent to it in a quiet place so that you won't be hurt by its flames; in time of sadness, do yourself a favor by sharing it with your friends so as to change a gloomy mood into a cheerful one; in time of tiredness, do yourself a favor by getting a good sleep or taking some tonic. Show yourself loving concern about your health and daily life. As you are aware, what a person physically has is but a human body that’s vulnerable when exposed to the elements. So if you fall ill, it’s up to you to take a good care of yourself. Unless you know perfectly well when and how to do yourself a favor, you won’t be confident and ready enough to resist the attack of illness.

　要悟透自己，就要心疼自己.在气愤时心疼一下自己，找个僻静处散散心，宣泄宣泄，不要让那些无名之火伤身;忧伤时，要心疼一下自己，找个三五好友，诉说诉说，让感情的阴天变晴;劳累时，你要心疼一下自己，为自己来一番问寒问暖，要明白人所拥有的不过是一个血肉之躯，经不住太多的风力霜剑;有病时，你要心疼一下自己，惟有对自己的心疼，才是战胜疾病的信心和力量.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to get a full control of one’s life. Then one will find one’s life full of color and flavor。

悟透了自己，才能把握住自己，你生活才会有滋有味!